No Place Like Home Anymore
All you want after a long, hectic day is to come home to what you hope will be a haven of peace and quiet. You start to unwind, feeling safe and comfortable, maybe even enjoying life again, confident that tomorrow will be a better day. And then, just like that, you’re thrown straight back into irritation mode. One neighbour, seemingly convinced he’s the next Lemmy, is now singing at the top of his lungs. Or perhaps, it is that one upstairs who is stomping around in what sounds like hiking boots, dropping things for no apparent reason—right above your head, in what feels like full aggression mode. On the worst days, it almost seems like the two of them teamed up to make your life a living hell.
Does this sound familiar to you?
If you’ve ever dealt with noisy neighbours, you know exactly how they can make you feel: angry, anxious, powerless, irritated, and at times, even on the edge of rage. Personally, I’ve had two panic attacks triggered by the behaviour of one particularly disruptive neighbour. Their energy and aggression stirred up old, buried memories from childhood. On one occasion, I ended up locking myself in the bathroom and breaking down in tears. The emotional impact can be far deeper than just a bit of lost sleep or mild frustration.
If you’re surrounded by people like that, you return home feeling apprehensive.You walk through the door already bracing yourself for what might happen next. One of my previous clients knew this feeling all too well. She was repeatedly harassed by a neighbour, whose behaviour ranged from passive-aggressive to outright hostile. Each day brought a new wave of anxiety. As she found it impossible for her to relax or feel safe in her own space, she started to hate it. Over time, the constant tension took a serious toll on her mental and physical health, leaving her exhausted, emotionally drained, and on edge.
Finding Calm When Neighbours Push Your Limits
Situations like these are heartbreaking reminders of how important it is to find ways to protect our peace and reclaim our personal space—even when others don’t respect boundaries. Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), also known as tapping, might not make your neighbours disappear, but it can help you manage the flood of unwanted emotions they trigger. When you’re dealing with people who seem to enjoy having power over your peace of mind, shifting your emotional response can be a quiet but powerful way to take back control. And if your neighbour thrives on getting a reaction, learning to stay grounded and calm isn’t just healing: it’s a strategic advantage.
Instead of trying to swallow your frustration or letting it spiral into rage, EFT offers a powerful way to reclaim a peaceful state of mind. Tapping is known to calm the nervous system, restore emotional balance, and reduce your reactions to external stressors.
EFT is an easy, self-help technique that involves gently tapping on specific acupressure points—primarily on the face and upper body—while concentrating on a particular emotion or problem. Drawing from traditional Chinese medicine and modern psychological principles, EFT has been shown to effectively reduce stress, anxiety, and emotional overwhelm.
Living with noisy neighbours can be a permanent source of stress, leaving you feeling angry, powerless, and as if your personal space has been invaded. Over time, these accumulated emotions can take a serious toll on your overall well-being.
EFT provides a method to:
Acknowledge your frustration without self-criticism
Let go of emotional tension held within your body
Shift from impulsive reactions to mindful responses
Stay calm and centered, even when the noise continues
Tapping script
How to tap?
Tap on the side of the hand (9) as you say the set up statements out loud.
Go through the rest of the points, using the script for the phrases. Sequence 2,3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 1.
Side of the Hand + Set-up Statements
- Even though my neighbour is noisy, I acknowledge that I can’t change them, but I can change how I feel about it.
- Even though this constant noise is just too much, I recognize I can’t control my neighbour, but I can control how I respond.
- Even though my neighbour is driving me crazy, I acknowledge I can’t change their behaviour, but I can change how I manage my feelings.
Tap through the other points, saying the phrases:
Eyebrow:I am so annoyed
Side of the Eye: I am so angry
Under the Eye: This neighbour is so annoying!
Under the Nose: I feel like screaming!
Chin: I have enough!
Collarbone: So much noise!
Under the Arm:It’s driving me nuts!
Top of the Head: I feel powerless
Eyebrow: So much noise
Side of the Eye: I want peace
Under the Eye: I want quiet
Under the Nose: I am so frustrated
Chin: 1 would like peace and quiet
Collarbone: I feel powerless
Under the Arm: They invade my space
Top of the Head: My space of quiet
Eyebrow: I want to feel quiet
Side of the Eye:I want calm and quiet
Under the Eye:I choose to feel calm
Under the Nose: I feel triggered
Chin: When all I want is to feel quiet
Collarbone:I crave calm and quiet
Under the Arm: Why can’t I have peace and quiet?
Top of the Head: I want peace and quiet
Eyebrow: I am worried this noise will never stop
Side of the Eye: And I will feel worse and worse
Under the Eye: My mood will get worse
Under the Nose: I just want to relax
Chin: Are they doing this on purpose?
Collarbone: Why can’t they do things quietly?
Under the Arm: I just want peace and quiet
Top of the Head: Peace and quiet
Eyebrow: I choose to relax
Side of the Eye: I choose to focus on my inner peace
Under the Eye: I choose to feel that I am in control of my emotions
Under the Nose: I feeler calmer and calmer
Chin: I have this peaceful energy
Collarbone: This tapping is calming me
Under the Arm: I feel safe in my space Top of the Head: Safe
Eyebrow: Relaxed
Side of the Eye: Peaceful
Under the Eye: My mind is getting quieter and quieter
Under the Nose: I choose to let go of those emotions
Chin: I focus on my wholeness
Collarbone: This feeling of peace inside of me
Under the Arm: This peace and quiet inside of me
Top of the Head: I am peace and quiet
I hope you feel much better now.
Until next time, stay blessed.
Daphne
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When Tapping Alone Isn’t Enough
If you’re doing EFT tapping on your own and find that the issue you’re working on still triggers stress, emotional pain, anger, or fear, it might be a sign that deeper support is needed. In those cases, I recommend working with a qualified EFT practitioner.
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About
Daphne Caumartin is an accredited EFT practitioner as well as a mindset coach. She works online with women around the world, helping them clear blocks to success in business and abundance, release limiting beliefs, and let go of the stories that no longer serve them. Her work supports clients in creating empowered mindsets and achieving their goals with clarity and confidence.